“Losers always whine about doing their best. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen.”– Sean Connery, The Rock
Sean makes a very good point, of course. The people who succeed in their ventures do so without whining about their failures.
This year has been particularly challenging for me. I’ve numerous ventures on the go and while all of them are making steady progress, they have also been very draining and, not being the most hard-assed person alive, I’ve felt plenty call to just pull the pillows over my head and hide from the world. That line from The Rock kept running through my head every time I caught myself moaning about the delays my projects are experiencing.
We’re human and there are always going to be times when some aspect of life gets too much. Or just feels like too much. I always recommend that you have a support structure to keep you going in those times but it takes some internal work as well. If you are the type of person to whine about “doing your best” and not giving more when the going gets tough, you are eventually going to fall by the wayside.
I titled this post “what’s the point of trying” because I wanted to focus on the difference between trying and doing. It boils down to the mentality behind it. Trying implies we’re giving ourselves an out.
“Oh, it didn’t work out, but at least I tried.”
You can’t allow yourself an exit if you’re doing something. Sure, it might not work out for a long time but once you’ve committed yourself to doing something, you’re more than likely going to keep at it until it is done. Success doesn’t come easy or without a whack of challenges. You need to have some steel-inforced genitalia to get you through those hard times.
A few months back, I got involved with my first production company. I paired up with a team who already had the experience and knowledge that I lacked. And continued my own growth. I am more of an all-over-the-place artist than a structured, linear get-things-done now person so it was a definite challenge to find this new element of my personality. But it is an element that is essential if I want to see this movie-making venture through. Incidentally, we’re on track, already casting for our first movie and will be in production in a couple of months.
We’re not trying something out. We’re doing it. And that was our attitude from the beginning. It certainly hasn’t been an easy few months, but we’re all finding strength in places we didn’t think existed 🙂
Consider your current ventures or planned ventures. They may all be scary. They may all be challenging. They may all require more of you than you think you’re willing to give. But are they worth your attention? If they are, give it your all. Go full tilt. Don’t allow yourself an exit strategy. Do or die.
If you have that mentality, you will ensure that you finish no matter what.
That may seem like hectic advice. What if things really go bad and no matter what you’re doing, nothing’s working out? You’ll figure out a way. Trust me. There’s always a way.